Recommended Reading: “The Four Agreements”

"The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel RuizRecently, a colleague recommended a small, but powerful book called “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. Rooted in traditional Toltec wisdom beliefs, four agreements in life are essential steps on the path to personal freedom. It’s message is a simple but effective code of personal conduct. He asserts that maintaining these simple agreements will open the door to more meaningful and accepting relationships, both personally and professionally.

Whether we are selling ourselves, our products, or our services, it is apparent that we need to bring a simplicity back to the forefront for the sake of preserving our relationships and professional integrity. Here are “The Four Agreements”:

  1. Be impeccable with your word.
  2. Don’t take anything personally.
  3. Don’t make assumptions.
  4. Always do your best.

They are so simple, it’s almost cliché, right? Let’s dilve more deeply into what Mr. Ruiz is trying to express.

Be impeccable with your word. Say what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself, or to gossip about others. Remember to use the power of word in the direction of truth.

Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you; it is a projection of their own reality You will be far less vulnerable to needless suffering if you strive to be immune to the opinions and actions of others.

Don’t make assumptions. It’s the only way to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want.

Always do your best. In any and all circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret. When we focus on excellence, our regrets are reduced, and we are empowered to grow in all areas of our lives.

These four simple agreements are essential to living a more positive, balanced life. And, all of them are fundamental to developing stronger, more balanced relationships.